Whether you’re the Maid-of-Honor or a friend who volunteered to throw the bride’s last bash before she’s married—the bachelorette party is important, fun, and a whole lot of work.
But don’t be afraid to throw one! While the workload is high, the reward is a thousand times higher, and being able to give your friend a night or weekend she’ll never forget is the best feeling in the world.
Personally, I’ve been to three bachelorette parties: my sister’s, my own, and my best friend Katie’s. I planned two of them as I was the Maid/Matron-of-Honor for my sister and for Katie. And I know what it’s like to be the bride who gets to be spoiled all weekend. IT. IS. AWESOME.
And through all of that, I have gained some great tips that I’d like to share for anyone out there planning a bachelorette party. Whether it’s one big night or a long weekend away—these tips will help you make sure your bride has the time of her life.
Remember, it’s all about the BRIDE
What the bride wants, the bride gets. Period. If she wants a beach day, plan a beach day. If she wants a night in, plan a night in. It’s really that simple, but unfortunately sometimes the guests will think the weekend away is more of a “girl’s trip” when in reality, it’s all about the bride who brought the group together. So whenever you can’t decide on where to go, what to do, or what to drink, think about what the bride likes and would want. Because it’s HER party.
So because it’s the bride’s party, don’t forget to get her some fun bride things. Some ideas include a veil, a sash, or some kind of bride shirt. You don’t want this to feel like just any weekend away for the bride—this is HER weekend to celebrate the fact that she’s getting married. Be sure she feels like a soon-to-be bride.
Have a Theme
This is helpful especially when decorations, shirts, and drinks are being decided on. Plus, it makes it easy to split up buying the decorations among other bridesmaids (if it’s a beach theme, ask them to keep an eye out for beachy decorations, banners, balloons, etc.).
Themes help everything come together. For example, mine was a Beyonce theme, so my sash said “Drunk in Love”; there was a banner that said “Flawless”; I had a Feyonce shirt; and our hashtag was #FranklyinLove. See how amazing that is?
Some other theme ideas:
- Nashville Country
- Fiesta (all the tacos)
- Great Gatsby
The list goes on and on. It can be specific or broad, but a theme helps details come together. And they’re fun AF. Let’s be honest.
Have a Photo Opt Spot
This can a place for balloons, a banner, or just some props—but having a specific spot for the bride to take photos after photo before going out, is so fun. It’s also a great reminder to take pictures before you go out, because that’s important. You spend so much time getting ready and looking forward to the trip, so don’t miss an opportunity to take pictures to remember it by.
Have an itinerary
But be okay to steer away from it as the night/weekend requires. Basically, you want to have things going on throughout the whole event so that there’s never a “boring” part, but understand that in the moment they will change. If it is a whole weekend away, people might want to relax at the house/hotel during the second day so if that means the itinerary changes, that’s okay. If you picked out a bar/club that isn’t very fun, don’t be afraid to go to the one next door that IS fun. Have a plan, but be okay to go with the flow, especially if you have a larger group.
Make the Bride Blush
Have a few embarrassing things for the bride! If she’s a little shy, buy her some sexy lingerie. If she’s a more risque bride, make her try it on. Do whatever you can to make her feel sexy, slightly embarrassed, and have all eyes are on her.
Some other ideas include:
- Make her get on stage at a piano bar
- Make her carry around a bucket list around her neck
- Give her a scavenger hunt that has embarrassing things to do on it
- Get super inappropriate decor/games (go to Spencers, that’s all I’m saying)
- Make her wear some bling, like a boa and some flashy glasses
Have a few surprises for the bride
While you should definitely talk with the bride about where she wants to go and what she wants to do for the event, be sure that you still have some surprises up your sleeve for her too. For example, Katie’s bachelorette party was in Savannah at a house with a private pool, so we bought her a HUGE engagement ring pool float and she had no idea. So when she came into the pool area and saw it, she freaked. It was great.
Another REALLY great idea wasn’t actually mine at all! One of Katie’s bridesmaids couldn’t make the trip, so she surprised Katie by buying her a bottle of champagne at brunch (she sent me money over venmo). So when I went and ordered the bottle and brought it to Katie, she burst into tears when I told her it was from the bridesmaid who couldn’t make it. It was so sweet and SO special. I know Katie will never forget it.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help
While a lot of the planning falls on you as the MOH, it’s definitely okay for you to ask for help from the other bridesmaids. In my experience, most bridesmaids want to help! They just don’t want to “overstep” the MOH. So if you need help, ask! Delegating tasks will help you feel less stressed while helping the other girl’s feel involved. It’s a win-win!
Have a guestbook
This could be done in a few ways! For mine, we all did a “Kiss the Miss goodbye” and I have it on my desk to remind me of one of the most special weekends of my life. For Katie’s, we did a polaroid scrapbook. So people took polaroids throughout the weekend and then decorated the pages of a small scrapbook with the pictures as well as personal messages so Katie can look back on forever. It turned out super cute. If you do the scrapbook, just make sure that you bring scrapbook supplies (tape, stickers, fun markers).
While the bachelorette party is a lot of work, it’s so incredibly worth it. And your friend will be so eternally grateful for your hard work. I hope these tips helped ease your worries and helped you feel less overwhelmed if you were beginning to get stressed. When planned early enough and with these tips in mind, you will for sure give your bestie bride a weekend she’ll never forget.
Thank you for reading!